The divorce process can be grueling, emotional and stressful. If you’re a parent, one of the saddest parts of getting divorced is telling your children. Children may not be able to comprehend such a major life decision, especially if they are young, and they may think that they were to blame for the divorce. Children also may not understand the consequences of divorce and how it will affect them. Our attorneys, based on the advice of psychologists, offer the following advice in discussing divorce with your children:
- Be prepared. Only tell your children if you’re absolutely certain you are proceeding with a divorce. Make sure that when you do tell them there is enough time to answer their questions and continue the conversation. Eliminate distractions during the conversation so you can focus fully on the children’s concerns.
- Agree on the story. Parents should make every effort to agree on what they will tell the children and do so together, if possible. It is helpful for children to hear a consistent story of why their parents are no longer going to be living together and married. Children do not like hearing that one parent is the cause for the divorce. It is best if both parents mutually take responsibility.
- Establish a routine. After telling your children why you are getting a divorce, explain how their daily routine will proceed and share your parenting time schedule. Talk about where you will be moving, what will change and what will stay the same. Be prepared for your children to have many questions, and make sure you devote the time to answer them.
- Provide reassurance. Tell your children that your divorce is not their fault. It’s a decision mom and dad made and is not related to any of their behavior. Perhaps, depending on the circumstances, you may also convey to your children that that there is nothing that will change your decision. Contact Boyd Collar Nolen Toggle & Roddenbery Law Firm today if you have more questions.
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